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After 40 Dating for Women: Is Your Bedroom Too Girly? How to Attract Your Groom Using Feng Shui

 

 

Ladies, is your bedroom’s energy repelling men? Is your bedroom full of chintz, lace, and girly pillows and patterns. Your bedroom’s energy might be too girly to attract relationship oriented marriage-minded men. Don’t fret. This is a quick and easy fix. Discover romance Feng Shui secrets to fix the energy in your home. Stop pushing single men out of your sphere with what is in your bedroom. Start attracting love and romance with Feng Shui secrets right in your bedchamber. He doesn’t even need to see your room for these powerful secrets to have their effect! Read on to learn what to do.

You can implement these tips in just 1 weekend, and start seeing the dramatic changes this week. You’ll notice the dramatic results in your interactions with men by next week.

imagesFeng Shui is powerful for effecting change in your life. The very energy and ambiance of your bedroom is one of the most powerfully effective ways to alter your romantic life.

Take a cold hard look at your bedroom and assess it along these lines.

Is you bedroom full of only girly fabrics like floral chintzes and frilly lace-edged toss pillows?

Do you have a television set, computer, tablet, or other computer-based electronic gadgets in your room?

Is your bed pushed up against a wall, with access to it from only one side?

What images do you have in frames displayed on your bureau? What about the pictures on the wall? Do they feature lone women in fashionable clothers?

Do you have flowers or plants in your bedroom?

If you said “yes” to any or all of these questions, then your bedroom is guilty of jeopartizing your chances with men, and repelling guys.

What can you do?

One color placed in your bedroom that immediately activates romance in your life is the color red. However, red is a super-charged power color. So, while you do want to add it to your bedroom, you also want to use it sparingly. Think to add 2 red candles. Activating the element of fire in a low key manner via a flame light candle also contributes to the romantic attraction ambiance and energy of your single woman’s bedroom.You could additionally add 1 single small red heart shaped pillow. See what I mean? What I suggested were both small items, and only a few of them. Alternatively, you can add some items in pink.

If you have all chintz and lace, just dial it back a bit. Purchase some blue or green sheets for your bed to balance them. And consider removing a few of the pillows so there are only a few of them on your bed.

Electronic device cut the romantic energy of your bedroom. They stimulate things too much mentally in your bedroom which disturbs the mood for romance, resting, and sleep which you desire in a bedchamber. Flowers and plants stimulate too much, also. Remove them to the living room.

Pull you bed out from against the wall so energetically another person could have room here.

Take down any solo woman images from your walls and remove family photos from your bedroom. Place those photos in the living room instead. In your bedroom, have images of pairs. You can have figurines of a boy and girl kissing or artwork which features couples.

Start making these changes this weekend, and light your new candles. Feel the shift by next week with your more romantic couple-oriented energy with men. And remember to smile and flirt with them when you do!

Midlife Dating Expert, Personal Relationship Coach for Women, and Professional Internet Dating Profile Writer empowers single men and women find lasting love. Combining her fun humor with a compassionate approach, Online Dating Coach and Boomer Dating Expert, April Braswell leads singles classes and workshop in the LA area of Southern California. Be sure to get your FREE copy of “10 Secrets to Get a Boyfriend Fast” go to now and subscribe to her ezine: www.AprilBraswell.com

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After 40 Singles Coaching: Ladies, Learn How to Talk to Men in Forties and Fifties at a Coffee Shop

 

 

 

Most single women over 40 years old find it challenging to meet quality men in their forties and fifties. Midlife women are so busy with their own careers and kids that it can feel daunting to try to meet eligible bachelors their own age.

One of the best ways to get back into dating at any age is to practice breaking the ice and talking with people wherever you go during your day and while running your errands.

It can feel nerve-racking to try to have a conversation with a complete stranger. But don’t you find yourself standing next to strangers at the coffee bar asking them to pass you a coffee stirring device? That is an ice breaker! When you head out to start your work day or your weekend, go visit your favorite coffee shop. While you are in line either waiting to place your order or to receive your beverage, just calmly ask the other people milling about a question or two. “Have you ever tried their cappuccino? I keep meaning to do so.” “What is your favorite imagespastry? They all look so good. I have a hard time choosing which one to buy today.”

When you reach the front of the ordering line, be friendly with the cashier. So often the employees running the cash register are doing the same tasks all day long. It can be mind numbing and boring work to perform for 8 hours.

Be warm and gracious with these people, and the other people standing in line notice that you are a friendly, thoughtful, and considerate person. That kind of sweet well-mannered behavior appeals both to midlife ladies and mature gentleman. Singles who really want a relationship want to be with a person who has some skills and is personable. You can be good looking and take care of your physical appearance, but if you have no people skills and inner qualities, the quality single will look elsewhere.

When you hear your beverage called out as ready by the coffee barista, step up to receive it and as you do so, look up, make eye contact with the employee, and smile and thank them. Everyone who is relationship-motivated appreciates and desires a mate with good manners, poise and polish. Men really enjoy being verbally appreciated by women. When a middle aged guy sees you’re a woman who can enjoy and appreciate the little things in life, then he starts to think that maybe you’re a woman he could manage to please. No one wants to be with a mate who is impossible to please.

By heading out to a coffee shop today, you can start to practice your singles social ice breaking conversation skills. Once you break the ice, it’s an easy segue to a first date!

A Top 10 Midlife Dating Experts, April Braswell, The Dating Coach Women After 40 and coaches midlife singles in their forties and fifties to find date, court and marry their lasting love. Online Dating Coach and Over 40 Dating Expert, leads singles classes and workshop in the Greater Los Angeles area. Enjoy tons of free dating advice and tips articles plus services and products to empower singles looking to find love this year at her website.

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Relationships and Love After Forty

By Tonja Weimer

Are you over forty, single, and think a love relationship has passed you by? Do you think you will never find love because you are “older”? The truth is, with the right attitude, being over forty can work to your advantage. In all probability, you have learned something from your past relationships. You are at a stage where you can look beyond the surface presentation of someone and deeper into their character.

What are the qualities that you can polish, if you are over forty, that will make you very attractive? Take a look at the following:

*Learn to listen

People over forty have a better sense of how to listen. Being in a love relationship takes listening skills. Listening involves more than letting someone else talk–though it begins there. Many people cannot allow enough time or room to let the other person express what they want to say. To listen with care is to allow that space and to not judge. Full listening is giving someone your complete attention without expecting something in return.

*Develop your talents

If you are over forty, you probably have discovered some activities that you are good at. Being a talented person is very attractive. Relationships that flourish are usually between two very talented people. If you do not know what you are good at, uncover those hidden desires and dreams and go find your edge. You develop your unique identity from polishing your talents and acknowledging your successes.

*Be brave and adventurous

People who are not afraid to fall in love and have a relationship must have a certain amount of bravery. When you are over forty, you are more willing to take the risks associated with putting yourself out there and discovering if there is the potential for love. What do you have to lose? You may discover that the person you thought you could care for is not available–emotionally, or otherwise–but that does not mean you are not worth loving or that you are not going to find the perfect person for you. It just means that you have to keep looking. People over forty are willing to make an adventure out of being single.

Have commitment and determination

If you truly want to find love and a relationship–at any age–you must persevere. Did you just walk out of the house one day and get handed your diploma or your job or your home? Of course not. You worked for it. So why would you think that you could just walk out the door and fall into the arms of True Love? If you are over forty, you are going to have to DO something. And, if you are over forty, you are mature enough to figure out what actions you have to take.

Stay in the “now”

Keep your conversation in the present and your eyes on the road ahead. Being actively involved in a life of possibility attracts people to you. Talking about your current interests draws others to you. Many people over forty have not put their past hurts behind them. When they meet someone new, they talk about their EX. Get some help in moving past that issue so you can find the love and the life that you deserve.

The sooner we learn that age has nothing to do with meeting people, the sooner we can find someone wonderful. Can you find love and a great relationship after forty? Of course!

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What Are the Odds? Finding a Mate After 40

By Camille Strate

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I wonder who ever started the myth that women over 40 don’t stand a chance in hell of finding a mate and marrying, whether for the first time or the 5th. It seems to me that there are loads of women over 40 who are not only extremely attractive, but also much more comfortable in their skin than their younger counterparts. They’re more confident, more compassionate and certainly more able to love completely than they might have been in their earlier years. So why do such myths continue?

If I were given a magic lamp and offered the opportunity to ‘go back’ to any age I like, I wouldn’t go back to any of them. I like being where I am. I like the feeling of knowing who I am, and not having to subscribe to anyone else’s version of who I ‘should be’. I love the feeling of calm that comes over me when confronted by anyone who feels the need to ‘get in my face’ for whatever reason they feel compelled to pick a fight. Most of all, I love knowing that when push comes to shove, the one person in the world I KNOW I can count on is ME. It comes from living. It comes from settling in to my Self. It comes from having loved and lost and survived the heart-ache, even though at the time, I thought it would kill me. It didn’t. I’m still standing. And, truth be told, I’m a far better woman now than I ever was at 25 or 30 or 35. In fact, when I was 25, even though I THOUGHT I had the world in my hands and nothing could ever stop me from doing anything I wanted, I was a train wreck. Really. A train wreck. I was outwardly confident to the point of arrogance. I was ruthless in my honesty. I had very little, if any, patience. And I really thought I had my ‘stuff’ together. Sheesh. What I didn’t know was A LOT.

So now, here I am at what is most commonly called “Middle Aged”. I have a lean, strong body. I have a few lines around my mouth. I have strong, useful hands that are as eager to soothe as they are to create. I have a wicked sense of humor and a heart of gold. I have friends who I’ve known since I was a train wreck, and they still love me. I have the freedom to be, do and have anything I choose, and I’m much better at the choices I make for the wisdom I’ve acquired. What’s more, I have vision beyond what my eyes can see. And that vision allows for truths that I could never have seen in my earlier years. So, with all that I have, and all that I know, why would it be impossible for me to find a mate, even at this age?

I believe there are 2 kinds of men in the world. Those that know who they are and those that pretend to be someone else. I’ve seen many a marriage torn apart after 20 years because he found someone younger. He’d leave his wife, who put him through college, bore his children and put up with his bull while he was working his way to ‘the top’, just so he could feel good about his virility or his waning good looks. He tossed it to the wind so he could marry the young little chickadee who made him ‘feel like a man’. One friend in particular, who recently went through this agony, called me up one day to tell me that she was going in for plastic surgery and needed a ride to and from the Doc’s office. This is a 41 year old women who could pass for 30 any day of the week, with a brilliant mind and a lovely heart.

Yet, because the knucklehead left her for a younger woman, she decided to ‘get younger’ herself and go under the knife. I did my best to talk her out of it. Kept saying, “Honey, just wait a little while longer. Wait until you’re not feeling so devastated. Make this decision when you’re emotionally well, not when you’re falling apart.” But she wouldn’t hear of it. When, at last, I realized she was going through with it, whether I was there or not, I did what I do for all the people I love. I stood by her and stayed until she was able to get out of bed on her own and actually feed herself. It was a long, brutal 6 days and every time I heard her cry out, I wanted to kill the guy. But, of course, it wasn’t really his fault. It was her all along. And she made the choice based on her own insecurities. Maybe he left her for reasons she didn’t even know about.

The men I’ve met who are not afraid of their mortality are the ones who wouldn’t dream of leaving their wives. They’re the ones who see her for who she is, in all her aging glory, and love her even more. The ones who understand that her beauty goes far beyond what can be seen with human eyes. The ones who were there when she was a train wreck, and stayed for the party anyway. The ones who went through as many changes as she did but stuck it out because they made a promise. These are the very men who’d marry a woman over 40 and be grateful to have the chance. But, the question is, where are they?

They’re with their wives, that’s where. The reason women over 40 MAY have a bigger challenge marrying is NOT because she’s over 40, it’s because most of the men who would love to marry her are already married and wouldn’t think of leaving their beloved wives. The other men, the ones who left their wives for younger women, are likely to be divorced again (because the young chickadee got tired of his ‘old, tired self’) and ran off with a younger man. So now the old man is divorced, his first wife has gotten on with her life, and he’s the loser sitting in a bar looking for some lonely old woman who’ll ‘settle’ for less than she deserves. Problem is, that woman, the ‘older woman’, is wise to his ways and won’t have any part of his nonsense. Stalemate.

These scenarios I describe are merely scenarios. There are probably lots of terrific guys out there who’d be honored to have (and appreciate) a woman over 40. And there are likely just as many women over 40 who would find those men delightful. The question is not whether or not women over 40 stand a chance in hell of marrying. The question is, does she KNOW how utterly valuable she is? Does she hold herself in high esteem? Does she know that she’s a queen deserving of a prince who will adore her and lavish her in love? Does she know that for all she’s lived, all her scars and lines and wrinkles, she’s even more beautiful than she was when she was 25? It is this woman’s observation that THIS is where the myth arises. And it’s up to us to eradicate that myth. Women over 40 unite! Look in the mirror and sing your praise. You ARE so beautiful. And once you really feel that, you’ll be as irresistible as you were the day you brushed on your first smudge of blush. Love YOURSELF. Then you’ll see who shows up to treat you like the queen that you are.

Camille Strate is a blossoming Being who spends much of her time writing. She also enjoy lending a hand to other writers who may need a keen eye (editing) or a fresh perspective (rewrites) When she makes time for it, she rolls around in the grass with her dogs and cat, pretending to be 9 years old. More often than not,, she’s got a smile on her face & a whole boat-load of love in her heart. Visiting her website is highly recommended. http://joyizzachoice.blogspot.com

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